I had mentioned before that I ordered some really great new books. I am very excited about them. I am usually not much of an independent reader, but these books are really working in my life. My favorite, so far, is called Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes… in you and your kids. This book is amazing me everyday with all the lessons I am learning and the revelations I am having.
The focus of the book is honor. I didn’t know that when I bought the book, but I was so happy to find that out. It is really bringing the idea of honor into my life in realistic terms and speaking to my heart. This book is helping me in so many areas besides just parenting, and I can already see a huge difference in Jake too. After just 1 week! I sat down last week and explained the concept of honor to Jake and why it’s so important. We talked about why it’s important not to whine and complain, but to do everything with a loving heart. I could tell that he was really able to connect to that point and has really been working hard at it. Several times this week he has cleaned his room and the living room without me asking, along with tons of other chores and he says to me “Mom, I really wanted to honor you.” Such a great boy! The book really focuses on the fact that obedience and honor are not the same thing, and that obeying without an honoring heart isn’t enough. It also speaks about how honor does more than what is expected. Such great lessons for kids to learn about home life, church life, school, and work.
Another part of the book talks about how life’s not fair and we should not allow our kids to expect fairness. Such a great concept. It really dives into the idea of individuality in children and teaching them not to expect everything to be the same with siblings, friends, and peers just because… but instead teach your kids that you will try your best to be the best parent to each kid, individually.
The book also spends a lot of time focusing on anger, foolishness, and selfishness. It speaks of why anger always messes things up, how to manage and get rid of anger, along with reasonable solutions for yourself and your children. Foolishness and selfishness in both kids and parents and the problems that come along with. I love the solutions this book offers.
Today I was on the chapter about raising teens. Honestly, I almost skipped the whole chapter since (thankfully) I still have a while before I have to deal with teens. Thank God I decided to read this chapter. I was amazed about how many lessons were in there for me as a person. One focus of this chapter was about teaching teens why they should honor every person whether or not they believe this person is worthy of honor. It explains that everyone is valuable if only for the fact that God created them that way, and we need to treat each and every person as a person of value. This was really a hard concept for me, especially with a lot of my paternal side of the family. Another focus for teens was on a concept they call the ”Teen Challenge.” This challenge is a 6 month project in teaching teens different honoring character qualities. In the challenge you pick 10 traits your teen could benefit from exploring. You then describe the trait for them with a lesson you hope for them to learn. Include a memory verse and activity for them to try it out. I thought this was such a great idea, not just for teens but for everyone. I have decided that I am going to partake in the ”teen challenge” myself, and possibly a mini challenge for Jake. When I come up with my 10 traits I will post the plan and blog about the outcome of each.
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